We’ll let you in on a secret: Any sex toy is a couples’ sex toy if you try hard enough (or just get creative enough). And with Valentine's Day coming up, you've got a great excuse to get busy in bed. However, there are a slew of handy tools that work best when it comes to the business of pleasuring you both.

I'm Curious, But Don't Know How to Bring Up Sex Toys with My Partner

You might be surprised at how receptive your partner is to experimenting with a toy, since lots of couples are using sex toys to enhance their experience and communication. Sex toy maker We-Vibe conducted a study of 1,000 men and women between the ages of 35 and 55, and found that 49 percent of couples that use vibrators together report communicating often, whether about sex toys or other topics. Added bonus: There's evidence that using toys together increases couples' ease with giving and getting direction from their partner in bed.

According to sex education experts, a neutral way to bring up sex toys is to mention a film or television show and ask, "what did you think about that scene in Broad City where Ilana...." Soumyadip Rakshit, founder of British sexual wellness firm MysteryVibe, suggests you "ease partners into the conversation about sex toys by sharing well-researched articles, especially in reputable outlets." Or you can simply say: "I was thinking about trying this toy with you, and wanted to know what you thought." Anything that keeps the focus on mutual pleasure and playful curiosity is a great way to introduce toys in general, or a specific one.

And feel free to cite the pandemic: Toy sales have been up since lockdown started, and couples are getting creative. With that in mind, here are the best 25 toys for all kinds of intimate thrills.

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1. Lelo Tor Couples Ring

This matte green body-safe silicone ring fits over the penis, and has six speeds from a faint murmur to a strong pulse. It's meant to give pleasure to both partners, since the vibrating part stimulates the wearer and the partner. As one user says: "My wife loves the many vibrations. Helps me maintain longer erections. Best yet, my wife loves the big Os." Oh, and it's waterproof and rechargeable.

Buy It ($139)


2. Zumio X

"I am no stranger to high-end toys but the Zumio is an absolute game changer—solo and especially with a partner," says one user, who describes having intensified orgasms with it. This slender device uses rotation instead of the vibration that most handheld toys offer, resulting in more pinpointed stimulation. A small rotating head massages massage the clitoris, with eight speeds to choose from.

Buy It ($98)


3. Adorime G-Spot Rabbit Waterproof Triple Point Vibrator

This cheerful pink Y-shaped silicone vibrator gets high marks for versatility, since its ergonomic shape and multiple settings make it adaptable to practically any erogenous zone. As one user explains "there are seven settings for the top two heads, and seven settings for the shaft, making 49 different possible combinations of vibrating pleasure. You are sure to find the right combination(s) for yourself and your partner."

$29 at Amazon

4. Crave Vesper Vibrator

This teeny, portable vibrator has a rounded tip for exterior stimulation and a nearly four-inch shaft for interior stimulation. It also has four speeds and two modes—but that’s not all. Meant to be worn as a necklace, you can easily slip it around your neck (and use it as a signal to let your partner know exactly what time it is).

BUY IT ($69)

5. WE-VIBE Couples Vibrator

Clip it on your partner during intercourse, for some clitorial and G-spot pleasure, that you can also feel. Totally waterproof, this is a great toy to keep in the shower or bath. As one reviewer puts it, “You know you want it. Just get it. You won’t regret it. EVERYONE needs this.”

$59 at Amazon


6. Annabelle Knight Oh My! Jeweled Set

Anal play can be the third rail in relationships, but this sparkly set of plugs might help charm a person into exploring new frontiers. "Its the perfect size if you're a new starter and feels amazing!" says one reviewer. Plus, the two sizes included in this set means trying these out is less intimidating than a one-size-fits-all experience with a single plug.

Buy It ($45)


7. We-Vibe Moxie

For what's either a hot sexy time or the set-up for a sketch comedy routine (or perhaps both), we nominate the WeVibe Moxie Remote and App Control Wearable Clitoral Panty Vibrator. It's a three-and-half-inch by three-inch super skinny vibrator that fastens to your underwear via a superstrong magnet, and a handheld remote that controls the speed and intensity of vibrations. And—this is the prestige, if you will—the panty vibrator can also be controlled via Bluetooth app from anywhere.

Buy It ($130)

8. Dame Eva II Hands-Free Vibrator

Made to be worn by a female, the Eva II is perfect for clitoral arousal during sex. It also features a hands-free design (the two wings can be tucked under the labia to stay in place), so you two can use those hands for...other stuff. P.S. It’s also waterproof!

Buy It ($135)


9. MysteryVibe Crescendo

This bendable vibrator lets you indulge in a combination of old school creativity (you and your partner can bend it to whatever shape you want) and new tech gadgetry (there are six motors down the length of it controlled by an app with pre-set motions or your own sequencing). Clitoral, G-spot and perineum stimulation is all part of its tricks; there are so many, the makers came out with a deck of cards so you can collect all the sensations.

Buy It ($150)


10. Dominix Deluxe Padded Leather Blindfold

Lightly padded and large enough for full coverage, this is a better option than the many flimsy versions on the market, and the buckle keeps it in position far better than the satiny, slippery ribbons on other masks. "This blindfold does not move one bit. It keeps out all the light, feels comfortable on the wearer, is adjustable, made sturdy," says one satisfied customer.

Buy It ($27)


11. Sportsheets Rainbow Mini Flogger

This vegan leather whip is on the cuter end of the BDSM accessories spectrum, but still will sting when playfully wielded. There's an oil-slick rainbow luminescence to the outside tails, while the insides are solid black. And at $29, consider this your Intro to Kink accessory, without having to invest in spendy leather goods.

Buy It ($29)

12. LELO Ida Remote-Controlled Couples' Vibrator

This Lelo vibrabor comes with a serious price tag—but it’s worth it, we promise. Made to be inserted into the female, it will vibe for you both during sex, while giving her a little extra clitoral stimulation. Oh, and while it is remote controlled, it is possible to change the settings without it.

$199 at Amazon

13. Fin Vibrator For Fingers

Each partner can take turns slipping this blue toy on their fingers and using it, well, wherever they’d like. This small-but-mighty vibrator can be used on three speed settings during both foreplay and sex. And, BTW, it’s definitely discrete enough to travel with.

BUY IT ($85)

14. Satisfyer Partner Multi-Use Vibrator Toy

See those two tiny buttons? They operate two separate motors (one upper and one lower), delivering the exact vibe you want, exactly where you want it. This Satisfyer tool can be worn 14 different ways, for women, men and couples. Hot tip: Make it a game to figure out all the uses for this sex toy before quarantine is over.

$43 at Amazon


15. Fifty Shades of Grey Inner Goddess Silver Pleasure Balls

We learned what these are about in that literary trilogy about that fun couple Anastasia and Christian, when he turned her on to silver balls to slip inside her and walk around to discreetly tease her while building her pelvic floor. As Fifty Shades of Grey author E.L. James writes: "I flush from the constant movement of the silver balls. They weigh down inside me, massaging me internally and make me needy, needy for sex." Each of these weight just under 4 ounces, and one reviewer reports "I think these are some of the heavier balls available which is more of a challenge and more sensational for the wearer."

Buy It ($30)

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16. Kiki De Montparnasse The Cloud Massager

This vibrator comes from luxury French lingerie designer Kiki De Montparnasse, and it's got an upscale feel to it—from its small size (only 5 by 1.5 inches) to maximum features: It has eight intensity levels and an air-puffing function for clitoral stimulation for couples or individuals. "Chic, discreet and very effective" says one user—who adds that it comes with a little silk bag for discretion.

Buy It ($145)


17. Dame Pillo Pillow

By day, it's a mild-mannered wedge shaped pillow among the collection on your bed. By night, it becomes a soft-yet-firm wedge that supports you in all sorts of positions. Fifteen inches wide and 18 inches deep, this pillow comes with a removeable, washable cover. "Has transformed my sex life," one reviewer reports. "This not only allows for the woman to be supported and in the perfect positions but it takes pressure off the man during oral sex especially. Highly recommended!"

Buy It ($95)


18. Kiki Handcuff Wristlets

A classic gold chain that can be worn as jewelry when doubled across one wrist or as bedroom restraints when fastened to both arms, these wristlets from luxury lingerie brand Kiki De Montparnasse are as transgressive as a pair of handcuffs but way more elegant (and there's no key to inevitably lose).

Buy It ($250)


19. Tenuto Wearable Vibrator for Men

A unique design that is all about adding sensation for all parties involved, Tenuto is designed to stretch and adapt around the penis and perineum for increased blood flow, extended erection and long-lasting pleasure. You pull the sides of it apart to fit around a penis, and it vibrates before and during penetration, so scrotum, labia, shaft—it's all getting stimulated.

Buy It ($170)

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20. Eve's Fetish Dreams Spanking Paddle

Lightly padded diamond-stitched vegan leather, in basic black, complements the classic design of this paddle. At 13 inches long and two-and-a-half inches wide, it's not super-big and scary, and lightweight enough to wield for what its makers suggest: "Use it for gentle correction, caressing skin or serious spanking fantasies."

Buy It ($25)


21. Lovehoney Colorplay Color-Changing Silicone Nipple Suckers

These soft silicone suction devices stimulate nipples, changing color as blood flow increases and the temperature rises. "They give a gentle stimulation to the nipples, in my experience just enough to enhance their sensitivity to a ‘fun’ level" says one reviewer, who approvingly says these are not as intense as clamps.

Buy It ($15)


22. Fun Factory Manta

"I bought this after a session where my wife used her vibrator on my penis and found that I could orgasm from the sensation," says one reviewer. "It makes sense if you just think of the penis being a big clitoris...a big source of pleasure." This device has two silicone wings that wrap around a man's penis, with ridges along the inside of the wings to hold lubricant in place for added sensation. Added bonus: It's suitable for solo and couples play.

Buy It ($140)


23. Bijoux Indiscrets Twenty One Vibrating Diamond

On your nightstand, it looks like a cute golden diamond-shaped decorative objet. But turn it on and cycle it through seven vibration patterns and three intensities, and it's useful as well as decorative. The three-inch diameter device nestles in your palm and both the flat edge and tip can be used for stimulating both partners.

Buy It ($60)

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24. Lora Dicarlo Filare Oral Sex Stimulator

This little palm-sized device is meant to give women a new experience of oral sex, with little metal balls under the smooth silicone surface rising and falling to mimic a tireless tongue. Robot cunnilingus, anyone? Bonus: If your partner holds this against your naughty bits, they'll be able to enjoy your pleasure eye-to-eye at the same time as they're giving you (simulated) oral sex.

Buy Now ($180)


25. Lovehoney Ignite 20 Function Vibrating Plug

A novice user comments: "My partner and I wanted to try something new and thought we would give anal toys a go. This toy isn’t intimidating and really comfortable. Loads of settings to play with and really easy to use." It's three inches long and has three speeds and 17 patterns of vibration, and bonus, it's completely waterproof.

Buy It ($30)

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