You certainly know the five love languages—words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch—introduced by marriage counselor and author Dr. Gary Chapman in his 1992 book of the same name: The 5 Love Languages. And if you aren’t living under a rock, you also know your zodiac sign—and your rising and moon sign too! You read your horoscope (and bae’s horoscope) and use astrology apps to understand yourself and your loved ones better. So, what can your zodiac sign tell you about your love language? A lot. Read on.
Every Zodiac Sign Has a Love Language—Here’s Yours
Our astrologer's got ideas for date night
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Published Mar 21, 2024
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About the Astrologer
Jaime Wright pens moon missives, an ever-evolving astrology writing project that began in 2016 as an email zine and since 2021, publishes as a weekly astro-cultural newsletter. She also writes a weekly and monthly horoscope column for PureWow, hosts the good fortune! podcast, and is the house astrologer for Jovian, and Errands.
What Are the 5 Love Languages?
There's a lot of variation in how each person gives and gets their love language, but here's a quick explainer of the fab five:
- Words of Affirmation can include verbal praise, compliments said aloud and straightforward remarks like "I love you," "I appreciate you" or "You're the best thing that ever happened to me."
- Quality Time is not just a stretch of time where you're in the same room—it means you are focused on one another, communicating, looking at each other and putting down distractions like TikTok.
- Receiving Gifts is the way some people feel loved, especially if the gifts show a real attention to the giftee's needs and desires. Not at all the superficial cash grab people mistake it for, this love language can signify deep and meaningful connection.
- Acts of Service are a boon to the overworked woman who understands that yes, we're all exhausted, but if you run errands, cook dinner or pick up the cleaning grumble-free, you really love her.
- Physical Touch is the most intuitive love language—after all, holding hands, hugging and kissing is what separates our lovers from our pals—and yet as couples stay together, they often forget that they're with their sweetheart, who might appreciate holding hands just as much as they did with their teen crush way back when.
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Aries (March 21 – April 19)
- Aries Love Language: Cheerleader (Words of Affirmation)
- Aries’ Love Language in a Song: “Fool for You” by Alice Smith
You’re always on a mission with a mountain to climb, going after your next goal. You want to win! And your ideal lover is your personal cheerleader, demonstrating that they’re in your corner no matter how wild, far-fetched or crazy the idea may be. You appreciate positive affirmations, goodnight phone calls and letters from not-so-secret admirers. No one who loves you can be shy or bashful about it. You need someone who shouts their love from the driveway Say Anything-style.
Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
- Taurus Love Language: Netflix & Chill (Physical Touch with a hint of Acts of Service)
- Taurus’ Love Language in a Song: “Lazy Song” by Bruno Mars
As a grounded earth sign, there’s nothing more important to you than getting cozy with your loved ones. Bliss to you is a day on the couch, cuddled up in a plush blanket with a marathon of Selling Sunset in the background while you dig into yet another plate of nachos. You need someone who is willing to be lazy AF with and for you. Someone who’s willing to clean up after the day of rest and relaxation gets bonus points as well.
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Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
- Gemini Love Language: Gossip (Words of Affirmation & Quality Time)
- Gemini’s Love Language in a Song: “Best Friend” by Saweetie ft. Doja Cat
Let’s face it: You never stop talking. That’s why you swoon for anyone who can keep up with your intellectual rabbit holes and initiate a heavy gossip sesh. You want your opinions affirmed and expanded upon, but you also love a good debate. As long as there’s no debate about who loves you. Gossip is divine as are inside jokes. To spill the tea and find common enemies is a sacred initiation to a lifelong bond.
Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
- Cancer Love Language: Deep Bonding (Quality Time)
- Cancer’s Love Language in a Song: “Make You Feel My Love” by Adele
All you want is to be around your special people. Your ideal lover wants to accompany you for all of life’s milestones as well as hold your hand through the tough times. Your love philosophy can be summed up by the iconic line from the finale of When Harry Met Sally, “I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” Everything's better when you’re together.
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Leo (July 23 – August 22)
- Leo Love Language: Feeling Famous (Physical Touch & Receiving Gifts)
- Leo’s Love Language in a Song: “Shape of You” by Ed Sheeran
You love the spotlight, which is why being close to your loved ones is a non-negotiable. Long-distance relationships always burn out because as much as it’s nice to have someone sing your praises on FaceTime, you want to feel their love IRL. You also don’t mind being showered with gifts and accolades (and giving them in return)! You feel loved—and most like yourself—when you feel like the star of the movie. A supporting role just won’t do.
Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
- Virgo love language: Errands & Chores (Acts of Service)
- Virgo’s Love Language in a Song: “Cater 2 U” by Destiny’s Child
You are everyone’s emergency contact, which is why it means so much to you when someone else offers to pick up the slack. Your love language is someone who not only does your dishes, picks up your laundry or takes your car for an oil change, but they do your chores following your exact methods to a tee. Nothing turns you on like a lover who offers to rent and drive a U-Haul for your next big move or sit with you while you wait to renew your passport. Your constant refrain is “Handle me—and my errands!"
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Libra (September 23 – October 21)
- Libra Love Language: Expert Curation (Receiving Gifts)
- Libra’s Love Language in a Song: “Intentions” Justin Bieber ft. Quavo
As the zodiac’s top stylist and tastemaker, you swoon for well-curated presents from lovers and friends alike. The token doesn’t need to be expensive or luxurious, it just needs to reflect your unique personality and aesthetic sense. You know it’s real when someone gets that all you need is that chicken soup from the Michelin star restaurant or that mug from the eccentric desert ceramicist. Like Geminis, you also love inside jokes. You want a lover who gets you and can back it up with a gift.
Scorpio (October 22 – November 21)
- Scorpio Love Language: Escapism (Quality Time & Physical Touch)
- Scorpio’s Love Language in a Song: “Rocket” by Beyoncé
Though everyone makes you into the sexy, mysterious type, what really matters to you is spending quality time with the people you love. You need friends and lovers who are comfortable with all your depths—be it on the streets or in the sheets. Your love language is true escapism and each romantic encounter should transport you. Whether it’s a surreal vacation, a decadent meal or sex on the beach, you always want to take things to their extreme.
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Sagittarius (November 22 – December 21)
- Sagittarius Love Language: Airline Tickets (Quality Time)
- Sagittarius’ Love Language in a Song: “Drive and Disconnect” by Nao
You’re all about the drama. And because you’re always chasing the next adventure, you need someone who can keep up with your pace. Creating picture perfect memories is of the highest importance. And whether that’s going on a silent retreat with no cell service, a romantic and fast-paced trip to Japan or hiking mountains in Italy while gulping down tons of natural wine, it’s the experience that matters. Ideally, your lover already has all of these travels planned so you can sit back and enjoy the ride.
Capricorn (December 22 – January 19)
- Capricorn Love Language: Luxury Items (Receiving Gifts)
- Capricorn’s Love Language in a Song: “The Best” by Tina Turner
You’re extremely on top of everything you do. And because you obviously know best, you also enjoy the finer things in life, and you want a lover who appreciates those things too. Nothing is better than someone who knows how to select a piece with the highest quality at the best price point. Someone who won’t choose what’s cheap over something meant to last. You also love high quality vintage stuff, so if they get you those classic Levi’s or that antique Moroccan rug, start planning the wedding.
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Aquarius (January 20 – February 18)
- Aquarius Love Language: Activism (Acts of Service)
- Aquarius’ Love Language in a Song: “The Greatest” by Sia ft. Kendrick Lamar
You’re a rebel with a cause so you want those you love to not only share your values but to fight for them too. You go crazy for someone who doesn’t have to be reminded to get involved with local politics and worthy charities. And the key to your heart is not just making a big donation or showing up to a huge protest, it’s doing little things every single day that make a difference. Your love language is activism and you’re ready to join your lover in changing the world.
Pisces (February 19 – March 20)
- Pisces Love Language: Extreme Empathy (Words of Affirmation & Acts of Service)
- Pisces’ Love Language in a Song: “Adore You” by Miley Cyrus
Let’s be real, Pisces: You want someone who would walk through fire for you. But you’d never ask for that. Always thinking of others before yourself, you need a lover who affirms you while also taking a large helping of emotional labor off your plate. You’re a dreamer, and those who love you need to be willing to keep pulling you down to earth. There’s nothing like someone who shows up without you even having to ask. Bonus points also go to anyone who’s willing to help you process everyone else’s emotional baggage that you pick up every day like a sponge.
