Who Is David Harbour’s Wife? A Full Timeline of the ‘Stranger Things’ Star’s Relationship History

Who among us has not found themselves wondering, Just how far-fetched are my dreams of dating Jim Hopper? Let’s face it, the man’s a dreamboat. So, we have mixed feelings about this latest news that Stranger Things star David Harbour is officially married to British singer Lily Allen.

In honor of the surprise nuptials, here’s everything we know about David Harbour’s wife.

1. Is David Harbour Married?

Indeed. In 2020, Harbour and Allen tied the knot in a secret ceremony in Las Vegas, according to The Daily Mail. The pair obtained a marriage license over Labor Day weekend and sealed the deal on September 7.

He and Allen have been dating since at least October 2019 when they were spotted holding hands and kissing in New York City. The duo attended the SAG Awards earlier this year, marking their red-carpet debut as a couple.

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2. Who Attended The Wedding?

We’re not entirely sure, since details have been kept under wraps. However, we’re starting to think that Harbour was inspired by Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner, since the ceremony was reportedly officiated by an Elvis Presley impersonator.

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3. Who Is David Harbour's Wife?

She’s a singer, songwriter and author of the 2018 memoir, My Thoughts Exactly. Allen is known for hit singles like “Smile,” “The Fear” and “Not Fair.” Oh, and did we mention that she’s the sister of Alfie Allen (aka Theon Greyjoy from Game of Thrones)?

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4. Ok, But I'm Nosy: Who Are Some Of His Previous Girlfriends?

The actor has remained fairly private about his dating history, but there are at least three famous ladies who came before Allen—Alison Sudol, Julia Stiles and Maria Thayer.

Sudol and Harbour were dating as recently as May 2019, with Sudol posting a sweet photo of her and Harbour wearing matching T-shirts on Mothers Day in support of the non-profit The Mother Lovers. (The two don’t have any children together, in case you were wondering.) You likely recognize Sudol either from her role as Queenie in Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them or as the singer A Fine Frenzy. No word on why or when the couple split, but they did spend part of the Christmas holiday with one another and appear to have remained close friends.

Between 2011 and 2015, Harbour was in a pretty serious relationship with none other than ’90s film and feminist icon Julia Stiles. The two lived together in NYC for part of those four years, although their relationship somehow managed to fly under the radar (perhaps because Harbour wasn’t as well known as he is now). Stiles most recently starred in Hustlers alongside Jennifer Lopez and Constance Wu.

Last (or should we say first?) but not least is actress Maria Thayer. She and Harbour dated from 2009 to 2011, just after she appeared in Forgetting Sarah Marshall as Jack McBrayer’s sexually frustrated new wife.

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5. Did He Ever Date Winona Ryder?

Despite the romantic spark between Jim Hopper and Joyce Byers, Harbour and Ryder themselves have always kept things platonic. In fact, the duo developed a rather close friendship over the course of filming multiple seasons of Stranger Things, as evidenced by the numerous wonderful things they’ve said about one another during press tours and by the things they post about one another on social media.

Plus, Harbour’s with Allen and Ryder’s been with her boyfriend, fashion designer Scott Mackinlay Hahn, since 2011, so Hopper-Byers stans, please leave your shipping to the characters on the Netflix show.



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