Is This Critically Acclaimed Movie Just Another Millennial Grief Flex?

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“He can’t see without his glasses!” IYKYK. And IYK, you’re probably dry heaving. Indeed, for elder girl millennials of a certain milieu, the super-sad book or movie was the ultimate trauma-bond. Think: Beaches, Fried Green Tomatoes, Bridge to Terabithia.

This type of woman (or gay man) in peril story has followed me throughout my life—from the aforementioned My Girl of my youth to the true-love-cut-short A Walk to Remember of my 20s and the so-gutting-you-can’t-look-away A Little Life of my 30s.

And now, it only makes sense that mother-in-peril is the latest trope—cutting to the core of the current millennial experience.

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Chloé Zhao’s new cinematic masterpiece, Hamnet, follows in this tradition—taking Maggie O’Farrell’s breathtaking 2021 novel (my favorite of the past half-decade) and rendering it absolutely devastating for mothers everywhere.

Like the book, Hamnet loosely follows the real story of Shakespeare’s wife, Agnes, imagining her life leading up to and after the death of her son, Hamnet, and speculating on the connection between said death and the Bard’s most famous (and similarly named) play. The book jumps back and forth in time, beginning with Hamnet’s desperate quest to find a doctor after his twin sister Judith falls ill with the plague and then jumping back to explain how Shakespeare and Agnes ended up together in the first place. The movie, meanwhile, moves chronologically, a decision that was probably better for cohesion and audience-comprehension, but I found less effecting. It also devotes more narrative to Shakespeare himself (Paul Mescal) who was largely off-screen in the book.

Still, the gut-punch of a child’s grave illness is just as immediate—perhaps more so—as we’re ushered, midway through the film, into a scene that is every mother’s worst nightmare. Jessie Buckley is transcendent in the role of Agnes, with a weathered, freckled face capable of both raw pain and hardened perseverance. And, much like the book, what the movie does so well is make 16th century England feel both immediate and relatable. Like, should we all start making poultices and drying thyme by the hearth?

I watched Hamnet in the theater with my book club—a group of literary, mid-40s moms also bred in the tradition of grief-porn. We wept loudly. And we hung around afterwards to discuss the ways trauma informs art. And perhaps this is the point of the millennial trauma tome—not to be manipulative, but to be cathartic. Gen X can have their detachedness; we millennials know the power of a good cry.

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