Whether your heart swells when your partner empties the dishwasher or when they surprise you with that necklace you were eyeing over the weekend, identifying your love language can be a go-to resource in maintaining a strong relationship over time. Historically, there have been five ways people tend to communicate and receive love—aka the five love languages—coined by marriage counselor and author, Gary Chapman: words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, receiving gifts and acts of service. But an eharmony dating trends report, found that 46 percent of adults in the United States expressed that their way of receiving and expressing love wasn’t included. Enter, two brand-new additions: shared experiences and emotional security.
With the help of three relationship experts, we break down everything you need to know about the two new love languages.
Meet the Experts
- Laurel House is a celebrity dating and relationship coach, author of Screwing the Rules: The No-Games Guide to Love, host of The Man Whisperer, founder of PrioriDating and eharmony's relationship expert
- Dr. Tara is a professor at California State University, Fullerton, author of Sexual Communication: Research in Action, host of Luvbites, speaker, and sex and relationship coach
- Shan Boodram is Bumble’s sex and relationships expert, a certified sexologist, sex education counselor with a B.A. in Psychology, and bestselling author who has made appearances on Netflix’s Too Hot to Handle, The Dr. Oz Show, and more.