“My husband considers himself something of a fashion-maven and he always has opinions on what I wear. When I pick out a pair of jeans, he asks me, ‘Aren’t those a little last season?’ When I wear a blouse, ‘Isn’t that a little low cut?’ We fight about it all the time, and it just ends in him sighing and saying, ‘OK, whatever.’ How can I get him to stop, and keep on wearing the clothes I love?”
Your husband’s behavior is coming off as controlling, no doubt. There may be an underlying reason (we’ll get to that), but the fact remains: You don’t owe anyone an explanation for how you choose to dress your body, especially a partner who should be building you up instead of knocking you down. I’m glad you know his behavior isn’t cool, and don’t intend to change who you are.
But, since this a person who you love and decided to spend your life with, let’s talk about how you fix this—with a two-pronged approach.