You’ve got a bundle of joy on the way, and everyone keeps telling you to rest up. Instead, you’re up all night funneling your mom-to-be anxieties into compulsively trolling the web for miracle baby gear. Look, we’ve been down this road. It’s bumpy. So yes, you might need a $500 stroller with air-filled tires to help you along…or not. Read on for our advice on when to shell out and when to save those precious pennies for college—or (gasp) something for yourself.