Perhaps the horniest by-product of the iPhone launch 15 years ago, sexting—the act of sending sexually explicit photographs, videoclips or text messages to someone, typically via a mobile phone—is here to stay. Back in 2015, a Drexel University study of 870 people between 18 and 82 revealed that 8 out of 10 of them had sexted in the past year. And that was even before the forced isolation of the pandemic, when keeping intimates at arm’s length became more prevalent than ever. It’s safe to assume that the concentration of hot-fingered screen tappers didn’t slow down during that time.
But is sexing good or bad, healthy or unhealthy, fun or just a way to get photos of someone’s junk delivered to your phone when you least expect it? We asked sex experts for their take, and learned that not only is sexting, when kept within consensual boundaries, a healthy pastime, but it can also be a fun way to enliven a new or established relationship with a lover. So, if sexting is not a natural love language, we included some tips for how to have a good time with it—here’s why the experts says sexting is good.