“My boyfriend likes the photos of tons of girls on Instagram, whether they’re former flames, hot friends or Instagram models. It doesn’t matter if it’s a bikini pic or a shameless grab for attention, he will like it—even if he knows I am watching, because I’ve joked about it before. I really don’t know how to bring this up without seeming like a ragingly jealous and insecure girlfriend. But every time I see what he’s liking, it drives me nuts and I feel terrible about myself. I know it’s not cheating, but it feels like cheating in some ways. How do I bring it up?”
Ahh, we are living in the Age of Instagram. Yes, your boyfriend’s Instagram behavior is a reflection of the time and not uncommon—who’s not taken by Emily Ratajkowski? Not only do social platforms create FOMO and comparison traps, but they also allow for slip-ups from the nebulous “like” to the problematic sliding-into-DMs catastrophe. If you want to address your specific concern with your boyfriend—which you should—here’s what I suggest.