If you’ve scrolled through Netflix recently (which, who hasn’t?), you’ve likely seen a little program called The Ultimatum. From the folks that brought you Love Is Blind—including Nick and Vanessa Lachey, who host the show—The Ultimatum is described by the streaming service as such: “Six different couples, on the verge of marriage. One partner is ready to get married, the other isn’t quite as sure. An ultimatum is issued—and in just over eight weeks, they must commit to marriage, or move on. In the meantime, each will choose a new potential partner from one of the other couples, in a life-changing opportunity to get a glimpse of two different possible futures.”
Curious about the psychology behind—and efficacy of—ultimatums, we checked in with clinical psychologist Dr. Beth Pausic, Director of Behavioral Health at the telehealth company Hims & Hers, for her expert opinion on the show specifically, and generally, whether or not ultimatums do more harm to relationships than good.