An Open Letter to Bachelor Peter Weber: Please Stop Hanging Out with All Your Exes

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Dear Peter Weber,

I can honestly say I learned a lot from your season of The Bachelor. The catch? It was all in the vein of what not to do.

No shade, but you really floundered your way through the reality dating show. Since you got your bearings in Hannah Brown’s season of The Bachelorette, I initially thought you’d do a pretty good job. But, not only did you fail to get a handle on your own season, but you committed a cardinal dating sin not once, not twice, but three times. I’m of course referring to the fact that you keep forgetting that exes should remain in the past.

It all started when Brown made a surprise appearance on the first night of your quest for love. Had you left it there, it all might have been OK. But since she continued to resurface and you even asked her to consider coming on the show to try things out again, things obviously went south. Eventually, your gaggle of girlfriends was able to move past this and focus on other drama (Mykenna and Tammy, Alaya, etc.). But then you committed to Hannah Ann Sluss (while still hung up on Madison Prewett) and reached out to Brown again to bury the hatchet.  

As we all know, this was one of the many factors that contributed to the end of your relationship with Sluss. In fact, she cited your reluctance to move on as one of the main factors, telling you, “I should have really picked up on the first red flag to give to me, when you wanted to reach out to Hannah Brown to find closure with her, so looking back on it, our engagement involved three women, me, you still being in love with Madison and proposing to me, and your need for closure with Hannah Brown. That is three women involved in our engagement.”

After that relationship ended, you (for some reason) decided to give your romance with Prewett another go. When that didn’t work, you were suddenly spotted with Kelley Flanagan. I have to say, dude, exes are exes for a reason.

I’m sure it’s confusing dating thirty women at once and I imagine there’s a certain amount of what if things had been different thinking happening, but if I’ve learned anything in my 20s it’s that people come in and out of your life for a reason. No amount of hashing it out or trying to rekindle things will change the fact that you didn’t end up with that person for a reason.

There are, of course, exceptions, but they’re just that—exceptions. The likelihood of you and an ex-girlfriend realizing that you’re actually truly meant to be together is slim to none, so why put yourself (and Barb) through the heartache?

Speaking of heartache, the fact that you’re a part of Bachelor Nation means that anyone you date is newsworthy. So, every time you step out with a new ex, all of your other former flames are privy to it pretty much immediately. Needless to say, that’s not exactly gentlemanly or considerate. 

My best advice is to broaden your horizons. Stop looking at your past dating pool for true love and start looking ahead.

Also, maybe it’s time to move out of your parents’ house and practice safe social distancing. Just saying.

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