Now, I live in a new city, and I’ve made some new friends. I’m still getting to know them and I’m a little nervous that they’d secretly judge me for getting Botox. Clearly, I have conflicting feelings about it myself. It’s hard not to, as it’s a topic that elicits a strong response for many.
Though it’s become less stigmatized in recent years, there are still plenty of critics who say that opting into these aesthetic treatments perpetuates unrealistic standards of beauty and upholds the patriarchy. I’ve grappled with these points myself, and I agree with them to an extent, but I also think that people’s reasons for getting Botox aren’t always as simplistic as chasing youth or beauty.
I’ve thought a lot about my own reasons and the closest explanation I’ve come to stems from a conversation I had with my dermatologist last year. At our first consultation, she asked pointed questions about my past experiences, and why, after a two-year break, I was ready to try Botox again.
This was when I grasped just how important it was to find a professional who was, of course, competent, but also took the time to understand the reasons behind why I was in her chair, which is a piece of the conversation that often gets left out. We see the compelling before-and-afters on social media and the casual language around how these are “quick and easy procedures,” which may be true, but doesn’t address the potential complications or the messy feelings you may have about going against nature.