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A few months ago, I was in Korea visiting family. During my stay, I spent some time with a cousin who’s in her mid-40s. As we were catching up, she recounted a story about how someone called her an “ahjumma” recently and how bad it made her feel.
“Ahjumma” is a term that’s reserved for a woman who is married, typically with children and is middle-aged or has physically aged out of being called a “miss.” The closest word I can think of in English is “ma’am.” It’s not usually meant to be offensive, and yet, it can feel offensive when you're on the receiving end (especially if you’re neither married nor a mom, as is the case with my cousin).