Sex slows down in most relationships, and as long as you’re both happy with the frequency then it doesn’t really matter. But let’s say you want to spice things up—without resorting to a pair of fluffy handcuffs. That’s where the “passion triangle” comes in.
Coined by Cheryl Fraser, Ph.D., the sex therapist uses this model to create lifelong romantic and sexual passion.
“If I’m looking to build the ultimate passionate relationship, a love affair filled with joy, intensity, loyalty, and desire, a relationship that becomes deeper and sexier as time goes on, then I want to build that on a very strong foundation,” writes Dr. Fraser. And what is the basis for that foundation? The passion triangle.
There are three components to the passion triangle: thrill, intimacy and sensuality. Some couples may be strong in some areas of the triangle and weak in others. But if you want long-term passion and connection, then you need all three sides to be strong and balanced, says Fraser. Ready to see how you and your S.O. measure up?