“OK, I know this is silly and there are way bigger problems in the world, but still. My boyfriend's Instagram account is full of pictures of his dog, his nieces and random shots of beers he likes, but very rarely does he post pictures of just me or even the two of us. (We've been together for a few years—there are plenty of options.) Should I be worried that he's ashamed of me, or am I just being paranoid? I want to bring it up, because it is bothering me, but I don't want to seem like a crazy girlfriend demanding that I'm featured on his IG.”
First, let’s address how you worded your question. Here are some words you used to describe your concerns, and your feared perception of your concerns:
Ouch! The fact that you’ve been holding onto this for years, and the language you use, tells me you may have some harsh internal scripts about yourself. Alas, you’re not alone. Many of us live with a little gremlin or inner critic inside our own minds. We may tell ourselves the kind of things we wouldn’t accept even from a stranger on the street.