“My best friend and my mom can't stand my boyfriend of six months. He is so good to me, though—buys me flowers, takes me on beautiful dates, constantly plans surprises. They think he's snobbish and standoffish, making very little effort with them; I see him show up to things, but should I be looking for other forms of effort? Am I too blind to see something's wrong?”
This is a tricky question, because it’s so easy to miss signs of a toxic partner if you’re in love with said partner. But I would definitely want to get to the bottom of what your best friend and mom see that you don’t.
Although it’s possible your boyfriend is bad news, it’s also possible that he doesn’t meet the criteria your mom and friend had in their head for you. Especially if you come from a certain background or culture, and your boyfriend does not, it’s possible your mom and friend have your best interests at heart, misguided though they may be.