3 New Year’s Resolutions All Couples Should Make for 2021
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You’ve made it through 2020 as a couple. Considering, well, everything, that’s no small feat. So, cheers to you two! And now, as you turn the page toward 2021, what can you improve on? What can you leave behind? How can you grow or challenge yourself? Talking about your goals together isn’t just a smart way to check in on your relationship, but it’s also a time to set up goalposts and pour the foundation for what’s to come—together and as individuals. Here are the three New Year’s resolutions all couples should try to make. New year, new you us.

1. A Financial Resolution

Money can be one of the hardest topics for a couple to broach—especially if one or both of you is dealing with a financial stressor like credit card debt or loss of work this year. But it’s also one of the most important aspects of a long-term relationship. Negative financial issues can lead to shame, which in turn can create secrecy, and it’s no surprise the combination of both of these things is a ticking time bomb for any partnership. But the beauty of a new year is the optimism it brings along with it. (And word on the street is that 2021 is going to be a helluva lot better than 2020.) Use the energy of a fresh start to dig through the muck—together—and prioritize the most important goal for you as a duo. Of  course, the financial goal that makes sense for one couple doesn’t work for another. Land on something that improves your life together.

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2. A Relationship Resolution

This past year was tough, no? Snaps for every couple that made it through alive, remote learning scars and all. After such a chaotic—possibly traumatic—year, it’s important to take inventory of what worked for you two and what didn’t. Did quarantine mean you wound up spending more time together and you surprisingly liked it? Or did you find yourselves resenting each other for all the housework and additional life stress? While 2021 will certainly bring its own challenges, try to isolate what, for you as a couple, were your biggest emotional struggles and/or wins so you can leave them behind or bring them into the new year with you. This resolution should be something that the two of you build together.

A relationship resolution might look like: 

 3. A Personal Resolution

Seems counterintuitive to #couplesgoals, but two unhappy individuals does not a happy couple make. In fact, codependency, though it may seem like an inviting and cozy existence, is not healthy for a long-lasting relationship. The term, coined by psychologists to describe a person who relies 100 percent on (typically) their romantic partner to fulfill all of their emotional needs, is not healthy. Remember when your mom told you not to put all your eggs in one basket? The same goes for your self-worth. Being in a strong couple does not mean you can’t be happy on your own. In fact, it’s the opposite. So, for 2021, promise that each of you will work on yourselves! Pick your goals and support each other as you go after them. (That part is key.) Embrace prodependency—a positive partnership where you support each other but don’t solely rely on each other for every single need. As you chase your goal, you should be your partner’s biggest cheerleader chasing theirs.

A personal resolution might look like: 

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