There’s a fine line between love and infatuation. According to Robert J. Sternberg’s theory of love, infatuation is rooted in passion; you’re wildly attracted to the person, you’re excited to see them, the sex is great, etc. Meanwhile, romantic love is rooted in both passion and intimacy; you have all the ingredients of infatuation, coupled with friendship, trust, support, etc.
Since infatuation is literally part of love, it might be hard to distinguish between the two—especially if you’re not sure you’ve ever been fully in love. But here are some signs to piece the feelings apart, and what I consistently stress to my coaching clients when they’re trying to figure out what’s going on—love vs. infatuation—in a given relationship.