Does it feel like you haven’t sipped rose, opened your windows or worn anything that’s not a down puffer in months? (Same, same.) And we’re betting this seasonal malaise has seeped into your relationship, too. Fear not, friends, for spring is upon us—try these four tips to freshen up your love life for the season ahead.
Pick one “radical” act of forgiveness
Does your S.O. forget to take out the trash or leave his towel on the bathroom floor? Are your nagging tactics straight up not working? Our advice: Maybe just get over it. Pick one inconsequential but unpleasant fight you tend to have time and time again...and vow to banish it forever.
Set boundaries around distractions
When you’re dead-tired at the end of a long day, it’s easy to resort to zombie mode and plop in front of the television or scroll endlessly through your phone. And while it’s always fun to hate-follow your coworker’s vacation feed, it’s certainly not doing anything for your relationship. Set some parameters around your tech (e.g.: no phone in the bedroom, must have “how was your day?” convo before turning on Westworld) and commit to being more present in each other’s company.
Stop negative comments in their tracks
Your BFF is annoying you. Your house is too small. Your stomach hurts. Think your bummer thoughts, catch them and—gasp!—keep them to yourself. It’s easy to fixate on sharing negatives when you’re super comfortable with someone, but it can bring conversation down and make you both feel blah. Tell your guy about something good that happened to you today. Better yet, compliment each other!
Literally spring clean
Bottom line: Sharing a living space with someone else isn’t always easy. And messiness? Scientifically proven to stress us out. Set some cash aside for a deep-cleaning service, treat yourselves to a fun, new home addition (whether a plant or a piece of art) and recommit to making your pad a beautiful place you’re excited to come home to.