After a few long months (fine, a year), you’re finally, finally feeling over your ex. Naturally, this is the exact same moment when your ex texts you to “see how you’re doing.” Ugh.
The moment you see their name pop up on your screen, along with a message that starts with a breezy “Hey, stranger,” you know the deal: They’re lonely, reminiscing and looking for a hookup. Or maybe they just want to be friends? Or wait, maybe they’re actually genuinely sorry for how things ended? You have no idea how to respond—if at all—to this stomach flip of a text. So we reached out to Channa Bromley, a relationship expert with Relationship Hero, and Maria Sullivan, the vice president of Dating.com, for some advice.