Let’s cut to the chase: We all want to be having the best sex possible, right? Meaning we’re always in search of new tips and tricks to up our bedroom game (eating oysters and chocolates as aphrodisiacs, etc.) Well, we recently learned about another method that could take things to the next level in the bedroom and obviously we had to share. It’s called your Erotic Blueprint, and it’s basically a map to what turns you on. We turned to Jaiya, an award-winning somatic sexologist (featured on Netflix’s Sex, Love & Goop) who coined the term more than two decades ago, for the low-down on what an Erotic Blueprint is, how we can find our own and what it means for our sex life.