"I'm planning a wedding, and every time I make a decision, my mom and future mother-in-law want to do a Zoom call to talk about it. We literally had to Zoom to talk about which table cousin Jeremy would be at. How do I tell them to back off? To complicate things, they are paying for 95 percent of the wedding..."
My eyes got wide when I read the part about cousin Jeremy. Not another Zoom meeting! The word of the day today will be boundaries.
It’s so nice that the moms are footing bill. My employer foots my bills via my salary, but if they scheduled a meeting to discuss every decision I made we’d, call that micromanaging. And though micromanaging is often not malicious (often it’s based on caring and wanting to help), it can put you on the fast track to burnout.
One the other hand, there are so many good things happening. Even if the way they’re trying to support isn’t a good fit for you (that level of involvement wouldn’t suit most), it sounds like there are a lot of positives in the foundation.