Isn’t it weird (and by weird, we mean frustrating) that although adolescents are all about raging hormones, big feelings and change, every time you try to talk to yours it’s like talking to a brick wall? Except this brick wall has a cell phone and communicates in eye rolls and grunting.
And while you don’t expect to know everything that is going on with your teen, it sure would be nice if you could get a little glimpse of what’s happening in that brain of hers. You know, maybe even have an enlightening conversation once in a while. But whenever you try to connect with them over the dinner table, you get nothing. Here’s a tip from family therapists and fellow teen parents that just might do the trick: Talk to your kid in the car.
“Sitting next to your teen…means that you aren’t directly looking each other in the eyes,” explains child psychologist Tamara Glen Soles, PhD. “This often makes it easier for teens to open up and be vulnerable,” she adds.
California parent Mirissa has a 14-year-old daughter and swears that talking to her teen in the car is the best way to get a conversation rolling. “I find that going for a ride in the car is a great way to connect with my teen daughter,” she tells us. “We can play music and talk and she seems more relaxed than when we sit down at home. Over quarantine, we would drive to the Starbucks drive-through as an activity to break up the long days and I found that by the ride home she was sharing things with me that I don't think I would have learned otherwise.”