Whether you watch it religiously every year or you find it incredibly cheesy, you're almost guaranteed to encounter Love Actually, at some point during the holiday season. The beloved classic, which was released 20 years ago this year, is lauded as one of the greatest Christmas movies and rom-coms of our time—which explains why you've seen so many memes of Mark (Andrew Lincoln) professing his love for Juliet (Keira Knightley) with cue cards. But is it actually as romantic as we remember?
To find out, we enlisted the help of dating expert Connell Barrett, the founder and executive coach of professional dating site Dating Transformation, in analyzing the amorous actions of the characters in the movie. As it turns out, the flick is full of some of his biggest dating don'ts. Keep reading for his full breakdown—and his pick for the film's most toxic couple.