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5 Secrets on How Successful People Stay Calm

Life can be stressful, but have you ever noticed that some women seem perpetually calm? Like, even in the most out-of-control situation, they’re the picture of serenity. Turns out, they’ve got a few tricks up their neatly rolled sleeves. Here, five secrets of those lucky ladies who never seem frazzled.

The 5 most important traits successful people have in common


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Preparation is key, but it’s just as important to be adaptable. Make a schedule and stick to it, but be OK with the occasional change. Whether your colleague is taking forever to get back to you or your kid’s soccer practice is running late, remind yourself that some things are totally out of your control.

2. Build In Wiggle Room

You know how you always think it takes 20 minutes to get to your brother-in-law's? But then it takes you five minutes to get out the door...and there's a roadblock on DeGraw and you actually need to stop for gas...and suddenly it's 30 minutes later and you're only half-way there. Build in a cushion (we like an extra 20 minutes) to keep yourself from being late and, in turn, frazzled when you do arrive.

Overextending yourself is one of the easiest ways to feel stressed. Plus, it can lead you to do a sloppy job by spreading yourself too thin. Master the art of just saying no and realizing that disappointing someone with your decline is better than disappointing them with shoddy work down the road.

Remember when you wanted to project manage your hallway renovation, summer vacation and the impending office move? Make like Frozen and let it go, woman. Figure out which tasks you could outsource to others and trust them to get the job done until they prove you otherwise.


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5. Prioritize Self Care

This means getting enough sleep and allowing yourself the occasional manicure or happy hour with friends--basically just treating yourself better. We’re not suggesting packing up and moving to a spa full-time, but when it comes to not being frazzled, a little "me time" goes a long, long way. 



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From 2015-2020 Lindsay Champion held the role of Food and Wellness Director. She continues to write for PureWow as a Freelance Editor.