Some women dream of their wedding day and others see it as the stuff of nightmares. And while there still remains pressure to “settle down” and get married, couples today are doing their own thing and ditching the traditional route down the aisle. So, if you’re hesitant about marriage and looking for reasons to not get married, you’re not alone.
According to the Pew Research Center, in 2012, one in five adults age 25 and older (at the time, that was about 42 million people) had never been married. Compare that to 1960, when only about one in ten adults of the same age range had never been married.
That rise in never-marrieds is attributed to the fact that folks are getting hitched later in life, and that more couples are cohabiting and raising children outside of marriage. Right now, the median age for first marriages is its highest ever: 30 years old for men and 28 years for women, according to U.S. Census Bureau data taken in 2018. Plus, a recent Urban Institute report predicts that some millennials will remain unmarried past the age of 40.
When millennials (which the Pew Research Center considers ages 21 to 36) were asked why they had not gotten married, 29 percent said they were not financially prepared, while 26 percent said they hadn’t found someone who has the qualities they are looking for, and another 26 percent said they were too young and not ready to settle down.