Hey, Extroverts: Here Are 3 Reasons Your Introvert Friends Love You

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Introverts and extroverts are polar opposites, right? Not exactly. Yes, introverts refuel with quiet alone time while extroverts soak up the buzz of their social interactions—but these two personalities actually have a lovely symbiotic relationship. In fact, introverts often truly appreciate their outgoing counterparts. Here are three reasons why.

You make big groups less daunting

You, extrovert, might not realize it. But when you introduce your introvert friend Suzy to Maria, a super-cool found-object artist you met at Malcolm's dinner party three years ago, you’re helping make Suzy’s who-do-I-talk-to, what-do-I-do-with-my-hands, can-I-hide-in-the-bathroom party experience much less overwhelming. Now, your introvert friend, who loves talking about art, has another person at the party she has someone in common with. Thanks, friend!

You aren’t afraid to ask if you’re bothering them

OK, you’re already aware that your introverted friend/coworker/family member functions best when they have the space to be with their own thoughts. While you might prefer a sounding board, you’re self-aware enough to simply ask your introvert bud if they need a reprieve from your 15-minute Game of Thrones diatribe since, chances are, they won’t tell you mid-Theon theory, “Uh, bud, you’ve told me this before.” 

You provide enough energy for both of you

While you come in hot, your introverted friend doesn’t necessarily come in cold. (You’re not opposites, remember?) On the contrary, your energy burns so bright that your introvert pals often enjoy cozying up in the glow. You love telling stories, and they love listening. If extroverts are the campfire, introverts are the campers around you, toasting marshmallows. Your boundless energy doesn’t mean you’re warding off introverts—instead, it can be inviting and comforting for them. See? The extrovert and the introvert can be friends. 

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