You and your partner are practically living together. You stay over at their place so often, you haven’t actually set foot inside your apartment in weeks (well, except to get the mail and swap out your dirty clothes). Making it official is the natural next step, right?
Maybe. Moving in together is one of the most critical milestones in any relationship; a true test of your commitment and the sign of a potential life together. But it’s also important to approach it in the right way.
Breaking up after moving in together can be traumatic, drawn-out and exhausting (just ask anyone who’s had to split up their books and furniture after five years of dating), so it’s important to go about this step in the right way. But don’t let that scare you. Living together can be tremendously rewarding and help you build the essential foundation of a successful long-term marriage or partnership.
As someone who’s been through this commitment and coached a lot of others through it, I’m all for couples living together after a year or two of dating. But how do they come to this decision? Before you take the plunge, here are key conversations to have, steps to take and transitions to make.