“Last spring, I started a project with a colleague. We worked together intimately for upwards of ten hours a day, and it was something we were both hugely passionate about. By fall, sharing thoughts and dreams all day, every day, spiraled into what I’m assuming is an emotional affair (texts, emails, etc.). Finally…we slept together after being brave and tipsy enough following post-holiday drinks. My husband and I have a relatively good marriage. We’re open communicators, and we raise our kids with a great sense of teamwork, but something is missing right now. I have felt things with my work colleague that I haven’t felt in a long time. Still, I am consumed with guilt. How do I even start to feel better about what I’ve done? What am I supposed to do next?”
You can come back from this, but it’ll take a profound willingness to pursue your husband and your problems openly and honestly. To move on with your marriage, it will also take the grace of your husband’s forgiveness. To move on from your guilt will take kindness on yourself.