In the heat of an argument, you text your friend: “Can you actually believe he called my cooking classes frivolous? What an absolute, beyond-repair asshole.” Hours later, you and your husband have made up, but your friend is still ruminating on the details. (“Kick him to the curb, Sister!”)
Or maybe your friend is the one who started it, complaining about her wife’s messy habits, and prompting you to pile on with your own litany about your less-than-tidy beloved.
All this begs the question: When is it healthy—and when is it harmful—to complain about your spouse? We asked two experts to sound off.