In a relationship, fights happen. But our tactics used during an argument can cause things to escalate rather than calm, says relationship expert and psychotherapist Esther Perel during a recent episode of the In Conversation podcast from Apple News.
More specifically, she says many people lose themselves in the argument’s patterns, which thwarts any attempt at a resolution. And while there are many ways to productively fight, Perel sees three common dynamics in her sessions that are highly dysfunctional. Below, the three couples you don’t want to be, plus how to flip the script.