What does a perfect marriage look like? Is it scheduled date nights with dirty martinis before you head over to a chic little French bistro? Is it holding hands while strolling through the botanic gardens before it gets too hot and the crowds show up? Maybe it’s reciting haikus to each other before an hours-long tantric sexcapade. Well, trick question. There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. So even if a realistic snapshot of your marriage is more along the lines of decompressing on the couch together after a long day (extra points for a foot rub), the important baseline is connection. But what does a connected marriage look like? Relationship experts and co-founders of Decoding Couples, Rachel Facio, LMFT and Stacey Sherrell, LMFT, help us understand.