“My boyfriend just told me he’s bisexual...and I am not quite sure how to process it. Mostly I’m kinda stuck on this fear that maybe I’m not going to be able to satisfy him in some core ways? I thought he was straight for the past six months, and now he’s questioning his sexuality? How the hell do I handle this? For reference, before this info drop, we were committed to each other in a healthy relationship. Now I’m just...confused.”
To start, your boyfriend’s sexuality is important only in that he wants you to understand this part of him. It sounds less like he’s questioning his sexuality and more like he wants to share this intimate, vulnerable fact with you. When you think of it like that, it’s beautiful that he’s told you. That doesn’t change his commitment to you, attraction to you or anything else about your relationship.
With that in mind, don’t assume his feelings for you are less significant because he’s bisexual. Know that if he’s told you he’s committed to you, his sexuality is not a factor in that commitment. If you want to understand your boyfriend more, here are some tips that might help you iron out your confusion.