“Most of my friends have gotten married, and we’ve gone to countless destination bachelorettes (mine included). But now that we’re all well into our 30s and one my best friends is getting married, I’m actually kinda surprised she wants to do the same type of thing. Nashville, Cabo, Miami are great party cities when you’re in your 20s, but now that I have a kid at home and I’m trying for another, it is very hard for me to justify spending a grand (at least) on a party I can barely enjoy. On top of this, it’s not like I can casually be like, ‘Can’t go, but will buy a round of drinks for you guys!’ because my friend would probably hate me forever if I didn’t go to her bachelorette. And, of course, I want to celebrate with her! Since a bunch of us feel the same way, is it wrong of me to tell my friend it’s ridiculous to have a destination bachelorette party at this age and that we should consider doing something local?”
Gonna start this one off with a resounding “No.” And here’s why.
First, it’s bad manners, plain and simple. When we asked Myka Meier, author of Modern Etiquette Made Easy, she told us, “It's perfectly fine etiquette for ladies of any age to enjoy a destination bachelorette and [it] would be stone-aged manners for you to say otherwise!”
To Meier’s point, there’s no reason to comment on anyone’s age. While you personally feel you’ve aged out of destination bachelorettes, that doesn’t mean everyone around you feels the same. And even if everyone but the bride feels that way, it’s still your personal opinion.