If you’ve heard utterings lately of “financial infidelity,” aka when you keep money secrets from your spouse, that’s because it’s a trending topic. In fact, a recent study by personal finance company SoFi found that 42 percent of adults have lied to their S.O. about what something cost in order to avoid conflict, and 11 percent even admitted to keeping a secret bank account. So we put out a poll of our own, asking women in our lives to fess up—anonymously—about any cash they’ve concealed. But is keeping a bit of your own business private actually a form of emotional cheating, or simply a sign of healthy independence? Either way, our lips are sealed.
I keep cash he doesn't know about
“My mom once told me to always carry cash, because your husband doesn't need to know every time you get your nails done (i.e., if you put something on a credit card, he can see the exact charge). My husband is an accountant so he's super on top of our finances. I totally pay for things in cash when I don't want to get questioned.”—L., married 4 years
I told him the bag cost "just under $1,000"
"I spent $2,000 on a YSL bag but told him it was just under $1,000...because I knew he could hardly stomach the fake number." —M., married 12 years
I lied about my inheritance
"I didn't tell my spouse my parents gifted me a secret stash of savings...Oops. Still haven't told him." —W., married 1 year