Anyone raising kids during a pandemic could undoubtedly use some good advice. But here’s the catch: Our brains are too foggy (time-blur, anyone?) to read an entire parenting book or to put intensive energy toward changing things about ourselves—like, oh, the bedrock relationship patterns that took root during our own childhoods.
Enter the genius of Dr. Robyn Koslowitz, PhD. We were so inspired by her Psychology Today article, The 3-Letter Words Child Psychologists Love, we called her for more tips on how we can make small yet profound adjustments to the way we speak to—and think about—our kids. “Sometimes, parenting is so hard,” she writes, “we forget that there are simple changes we can make that can help. Language has a lot of power.” It turns out that using—and avoiding—certain words can reframe the way we relate to our littlest loved ones. Brevity is the soul of wit? It may also be at the heart of better relationships. Happier families, right this way.