According to Hafeez, chore martyrs go out of their way to avoid confrontation. And we get it. Bringing up your grievances (aka that pile of dirty dishes in the sink) can feel like you’re picking a fight with your partner. But Hafeez finds these honest convos are the only way to avoid problems down the line, especially since resentment and chore martyrdom go hand in hand.
"Confronting a situation within your relationship that is annoying you or stressing you out can lead to clear expectations being set. The longer you wait to address a problem, the more strain it causes on you and subsequently the relationship," she points out.
While martyrs may think they’re keeping the peace by sweeping the floors in silence, they’re really building tension within themselves and their marriages.