When we read this game-changing parenting advice from famed relationship therapist Esther Perel, we started fantasizing about how it would play out in real life.
Here’s what she said:
The “child care” is for YOU, not the kids.
If you’re able to hire help, “The person is not there to help you with the children—they are there to help YOU. You need an assistant. You need someone who helps you, who feeds you when you come home so that you can go and be with the kid and play and read.” Per her interviewer, Haley Nahman, Perel “suggests thinking of anyone you hire as a parental assistant rather than someone to dote on the child’s every whim while you spin all the other plates.”