Maybe it’s a work wife—or a college friend your partner recently reconnected with that now gets brought up in more conversations than not. Hearing a name once, twice, even three times seems casual, but when a person’s name is brought up on repeat, that’s when your ears might start to perk up. There’s also a word for it: Mentionitis.
Meet the Expert
Moraya Seeger DeGeare is a licensed marriage and family therapist and in-house relationship expert for Paired, an app that helps you build deeper intimacy with your partner on a daily basis. She is also the co-founder of BFF Therapy.
According to DeGeare, “mentionitis” is what happens when your partner continuously—and consistently—talks about someone outside of your relationship endearingly. At surface level, it’s harmless and OK if there are people beyond your twosome that you can lean on and laugh with. But where it gets complicated is when all those mentions of another person start to read like you’re prioritizing someone else’s feelings and opinions beyond your own coupledom to a point where it feels threatening to your own union.