“Several months ago, I got an amazing work opportunity in another state, so my boyfriend and I went long distance. We said we’d make it work, but about a week ago, he called me up and said he couldn’t see a way forward and we had to break up. I have been a disaster ever since! After all, we’d been together for more than three years, and I was talking about marriage and children with this man. I can’t imagine my life without him, and I’m questioning if it’s worth staying here. Should I move back?”
As with many things in the relationship world, there’s no easy answer here, especially if you don’t know exactly why he broke up with you.
For starters, it’s totally reasonable to want to find a way to make it work, and if you guys can get on the same page, that’s great. If you truly want to move back, I support that. If your boyfriend would consider moving to you, that’s even better! Or maybe there’s a different issue associated with the move that you just need to work out (his hatred of video chat, say?), and resolving that problem is all you need to do. Talk through the logistics and start executing a plan.
But if he’s unwilling to have that discussion, then you need to listen to him and acknowledge that he wants out.