Back in September, I lent my ex-husband money. He swore he was good for it and, in truth, he always has been. My son had also just helped him secure a job that was starting in early November. So, how come, when I found out that he had relapsed around Christmas and that he had lied to me when I saw him in early December, I was more seething than sad? This isn’t the first time I’ve lent him money, should it be the last? - Addicted to Loathe
Obviously, it’s devastating when someone we know, in any way shape or form, relapses. Let alone, someone we’re related to, were married to, had kids with, and are connected to for life. As much as we all wish we were the type to come out of the gate filled with compassion and in our hearts, have you met us? Anger is more often our go-to emotion. Understandably. It’s somehow “easier” to feel than hurt or sadness.
But (you SO knew my but was coming), what if it was more of an anomaly that your ex paid you back all those times than this one time they didn’t? Think about it: Did you celebrate those times as long and weigh them as heavy as this time?