"My husband and I have a loving, supportive marriage, but I’m worried about how often we have sex. It’s always good when we have it, but neither of us feel the need to have it very often. My best guess is once a month? (Although I know that sometimes it’s less!) I have this latent fear that this isn’t enough, and that every married person I know is having sex more often. Am I worried over nothing? Or should we be making a greater effort to do the deed more?”
We live in a crazy new world, and there’s no denying that, across America, there’s a serious sexual decline. So what are we doing these days instead of having sex? Easy! We’re putzing around on our phones or tuning in (and zoning out) to HBO, Netflix, Hulu and Prime.
We are also marrying later in life, and as the average age of first marriage creeps up, the average person comes to a marriage with many of years of inconsistent sexual activity. In short: We get used to doing other things and not having sex.
According to the General Social Survey, research suggests that the average married person has sex roughly once a week. But there’s reason to believe this reported stat isn’t accurate. Specifically, because people are self-conscious about their sex lives, they often fudge the truth. For instance, the amount of condom sales do not match the amount of sexual acts in which people report using a condom. By a whole lot.