Remember when you would come home from school after spending all day with your friends and immediately get on the (house) phone to call your bestie and shoot the shit for a couple of hours? Or if you wanted to talk to Ashley H. and Ashley B., you would tie up the phone line by logging on to the internet and getting on Instant Messenger. No matter what day it was, you knew exactly what your friends were having for dinner, how much homework they had left to do and what everyone was going to wear tomorrow. Life was good!
Fast forward to being a grown-up. Between work and kids and the pile of never-ending laundry on the floor, I don’t even know what I’m going to eat for dinner tonight let alone what my friends are up to. It’s sad but true that I often find myself going weeks without talking to some of my closest pals. (This weekend I’m going to a friend’s daughter’s fourth birthday—she’s 4! When did that happen??) But this is what happens when you grow up and have boring things like bills and grocery shopping and emails that take up so much of your time. And I know you can relate. You’re busy too!
But over the years, I’ve incorporated a little monthly routine that helps me stay in touch with my friends and family. It’s by no means revolutionary, but it is effective.
Every first Sunday of the month, I set aside some time—this can be as little as 10 minutes or when my kids miraculously nap at the same time it may even be an hour— to reach out to a friend that I haven't spoken to in a while. I’ll text or email or even pick up the phone (remember phone calls?) just to say hi.