Same Astrological Sign as Your Partner? Here’s How to Deal
Hooray! You and your S.O. share the same values, tastes in takeout and disdain for boring cocktail parties. Too bad you also share the same astrological sign (which, ahem, can lead to some major cosmic comeuppances). Here, the biggest challenge by sign—and how to deal with it.
IF YOU’RE BOTH AQUARIUSES
You’re a happy-go-lucky pair who tend to look on the bright side and go with the flow. The challenge: You’re both terrible at opening up about your feelings—which can lead to two stewing, passive-aggressiveness parties with no communication in sight. Challenge your S.O. to speak his mind when you see him shut down, and likewise, do your best to be honest when prodded. Promise to hold each other accountable for these conversations and you might just have a shot.
IF YOU’RE BOTH PISCES
Behold: Two dreamy fish living their best lives together. All of this looks pretty idyllic on the surface, but take a peek at the murkiness below and you’ll see that most decisions the two of you make are not grounded in reality. (Can you really afford to dine out every night? Is it really in your best interest to quit your jobs and move to Malibu?) A firm budget (and erm, maybe a financial planner) is the first step toward keeping it real.
IF YOU’RE BOTH ARIES
Simply put, you’re a pair of hotheaded firecrackers who speak from a place of passion rather than reason. Which means that yes—you do in fact fight more than other couples. Your secrets to success? 1) Swallowing your pride and saying you’re sorry (practice, practice!) and 2) spending time apart. Absence makes the heart grow fonder...of your punitive other half.
IF YOU’RE BOTH TAURUSES
Whaddaya get when you pair two stubborn, steadfast bulls? A couple who can seldom decide where to dine out for dinner...let alone admit when they’re in the wrong. Luckily, you’re both grounded in the sensual, so your sex life will be the glue that holds it all together. Prioritize time in the bedroom, and get out into nature together whenever you can. Outdoor activities always clear both of your heads.
IF YOU’RE BOTH GEMINIS
No getting around it: This is a tough pairing. (We mean, there are basically four flighty personalities to wrangle instead of two.) And while the two of you can have one helluva time together, neither of you ever likes to be the grown-up—which can lead to feelings of instability. Prioritize downtime at home and setting boundaries around your social calendar. See? You’re feeling calmer already.
IF YOU’RE BOTH CANCERS
Hooray! You’re two hygge homebodies who love to gush and are always sensitive to the other’s feelings. The problem? Hibernation can get old after a while, and can lead to major malaise down the road (both in the sack and for your social life). Each month, make an effort to try new things—outside of your hermit shells—to keep the spark alive.
IF YOU’RE BOTH LEOS
Welp, you’re both high-maintenance divas who crave attention in the form of being told you’re the greatest person that ever walked the earth. Which is fine as long as each of you delivers on that demand. Your challenge? Doling out the flattery you seek yourself, so that neither person feels less adored than the other.
IF YOU’RE BOTH VIRGOS
The good news? You both want the best in everything and are on the same page about what the means. The problem arises when you turn your meticulous, analytical brains on each other. Remember: “Constructive criticism” can feel biting and mean. Learn to stop your nitpicky thoughts before speaking them aloud and you might just find domestic harmony.
IF YOU’RE BOTH LIBRAS
You both seek happiness, balance and beauty, which means you keep a stunning home and project an air of confidence and ease. Trouble is, you’re also both prone to pretending everything is perfect when it isn’t. Real talk: If you don’t let each other see the messy, unpleasant sides of your personalities, resentment and tension will fester. True colors please, Libs.
IF YOU’RE BOTH SCORPIOS
Passionate and intense, Scorpios are known for being addictive lovers. Couple two Scorps together? You’ve got a partnership that romance novels are made of. Too bad that also means that themes of jealousy, betrayal and possessiveness run rampant. Over-communication and honesty at all costs (ahem, no scrolling through each other's text messages) will be the key to making this a trusting relationship rather than a dangerous one.
IF YOU’RE BOTH SAGITTARIUSES
While you’re in sync about most things, Sagittarians will butt heads when it comes to commitment (you’re nomads at heart, after all). The biggest issue will arise when one of you wants to spring roots and the other doesn’t—whether in committing to each other exclusively, or committing to a town for the long haul once kids are in the picture. Practice compromise and being at peace with it.
IF YOU’RE BOTH CAPRICORNS
You’re both crazy ambitious, which can make this union highly successful. But be careful that your mutual obsession with keeping up with the Joneses doesn’t cause you to lose sight of what really matters. A shared hobby (think: cycling or cooking) will anchor and connect you—and keep you both from fetishizing the superficial.