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Rebecca Moreland

The Songwriter Hoping to Heal Others with Her Words

Singer and songwriter Rebecca Moreland has turned great pain into great hope. At 21, she entered a marriage that would turn abusive. She’s since found the strength to move and channel that dark time into her lifelong passion: music. She is now a voice for others in situations like hers, and volunteers and performs all around the world.

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Desire and Expectations. Let’s talk about them. You can’t live your life without expectations. Society doesn’t run without them. ✨ You play a show, you are expected to show up and know what you’re doing. You go to bar and order drinks, you’re expected to pay. If you’re a parent, you’re expected to take good care of your child. ✨ Expectations are always attached to things and people that matter or hold value. That’s just part of life. When did we start seeing expectations aka responsibility as a negative thing? & why in one of our most important relationships — our romantic ones— do we attach this pop catch phrase of “no expectations”? ✨ It’s better to define what the expectations are up front and communicate & care about real needs - but to say you’re in any kind of human exchange without expectations is just not reasonable. ✨ Now let’s talk about desire for future things vs living in the moment. I recently had someone tell me that I should not be driven by my desire for future events. I get it—everything in balance. But Your desires are important because they are what drive you forward. If all you ever wanted was in the moment, you would have never have put the work in to become what you are now. ✨ Desire for the future is our fuel, our energy. To say it’s unevolved to not be driven by desire for a future outcome is foolish. ✨ Now, overtaken by desire is a different story. But in a healthy balance — desire is the catalyst that turns ideas into reality, sketches into buildings, and love into families. If it weren’t for our desires for the future, skyscrapers wouldn’t be built and songs wouldn’t be written. ✨ So don’t shame yourself or anyone else for having desires for the future or expectations, but seek to define them, explore them, and let them be a guide towards the kind of life you want to mindfully live. ✨ Philosophical rant over. 🙌 go out and build the life you dream and live intentionally. Xoxox 💋 ✨ ✨ ✨ #localartist #supportlocalart #supportlocalmusic #popmusic #indiepop #nashvillemusic #nycmusic #lamusic #upcomingartist #newmusicalert #motivationmusic #motivationalquotes @selfhelpquotes #selflove #musicheals #nashvillesongwriter @themusiccitylocal

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When did you realize what you wanted to do in your life?

“I grew up in a musical family—music was just a part of everyday life. We sang our prayers and played music after family dinners. I realized the power of story and song when I was about 5 years old listening to James Taylor. I felt lonely a lot as a kid, and I wanted to write songs to express the things that were hard to say otherwise. I started to write songs at 13, and I realized quickly that my gift of empathy and writing really helped other people feel less alone, too. I never feel as much joy as I do when I sing. It’s like this indescribable feeling of happiness. I had to work really hard at it. I wasn’t naturally a Mariah Carey. I spent hours a day for years practicing. I’m definitely a poster child for failures, almosts, persevering and pushing through. But one thing is for certain: I have always known this is what I wanted to do.”

What is your biggest accomplishment to date?

“My biggest accomplishment is buying my house in East Nashville. I left an abusive marriage in the middle of the night with next to nothing a few years ago. It tore me apart and I had to completely rewrite my life and what I thought it would look like. For the first several months, I slept on an air mattress in a tiny rented room having no idea what my life looked like without my marriage. Because of my family and friends believing in me, I was able to pick myself up and finally last year had the opportunity to invest in my first home. Now I am an Airbnb host and I get to have the honor of hosting dozens of Nashville guests coming through. I love that my home is now a safe place where people can come and rest and have fun.”

What’s something you’d like people to know about you or your job that they probably don’t?

“I write all of my songs from personal experiences and from the experiences of the people I come in contact with. One of my favorite stories of this is a song I wrote for my friend Amber. Her husband had returned from being stationed overseas and was suffering from PTSD. As a wife, she just didn’t know how to reach out and help him. So I wrote what she was feeling into a song “Never Came Back” and gave it to her. She shared it on the Army Wives forum here in Tennessee and dozens of women wrote in saying that the song helped save their marriages and families. So many women wrote in and said that they hadn’t been able to put into words what they were feeling like that before. This is what means the most to me, stories like this. When I know that my music is helping heal people, that makes all of the struggle of being a musician worth it.”

What does being a woman mean to you today?

“This one is hard. And personal. I got married young to a man who grew up in a cult. Unfortunately, a big part of his upbringing was centered around defining who a woman is and what her role is. So as an independent, visionary woman of 21 years old, I found myself being told how many children I would have, what religion I would be, what hobbies I should have and what weight (yes, weight) he would most like me at. As our marriage progressed, so did my ex-husband’s disappreciation for the woman I was. I fought internally with this for years. I was hit hard with these questions of what it means to be a woman at an early age and really had to do some deep digging. Today, my hard-lived questions have brought me to this: Being a woman today means you are you. You are strong, you are a lover and a fighter. But most importantly, you are the person you want to be. Not who society or a man tells you who to be. If I would have listened to what others told me a woman should be when I was 21, I would have never kept doing music, never gotten my degree, and you would most certainly never be hearing the music I now sing.”

Favorite podcast?

The Dollop. It’s hilarious.”

Snack food you can’t live without?

“Pizza. It’s not really a snack food. It’s really just life.”

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