Meghan Markle Sets the Record Straight on Being ‘Demanding’ vs. ‘Difficult’: ‘Say What It Is You Need’

Meghan Markle is setting the record straight on the difference between addressing your needs and being a diva.


This week, the Duchess of Sussex released a brand-new episode of her podcast, Archetypes, with special guest Issa Rae. During the installment, Rae recalled a time when someone called her “particular” and explained why she took it as a compliment. The Insecure star said, “To me, that means I have a sense of what I want.”

Markle agreed with this sentiment and explained that there’s a difference between knowing what you want and being difficult. “You’re allowed to set a boundary, you’re allowed to be clear,” she added. “It does not make you demanding. It does not make you difficult. It makes you clear.”

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Markle revealed that she used to avoid voicing her needs. But over time, she’s learned to get straight to the point. “I’m particular,” Markle echoed. “A. I think a high tide raises all ships—we’re all going to succeed, so let’s make sure it’s really great because it’s a shared success for everybody. But I also know that I will find myself cowering and tiptoeing into a room.”

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Markle continued, “I don’t know if you ever do that, the thing that I find the most embarrassing—when you’re saying a sentence and the intonation goes up like it’s a question. And you’re like, ‘Oh, my God, stop!’ Stop whispering and tiptoeing around and say what it is you need.”

Well said, Meghan.

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