What to Do When Someone Compliments Your Kids (When You Yourself Can’t Take a Compliment)
PSA: Imposter Syndrome in parenting is real.
When someone says “She’s so cute!”
Don’t say: Ah, but she’s such a little monster when it comes to sleeping/sharing/getting her way.
Try this instead: Move the conversation away from her looks and toward something she controls. Say: “Thank you! She’s such a good kid. And funny too. You have to see her Beyoncé impression.”
When someone says “He’s such a good artist/drummer/soccer player.”
Don’t say: He gets it from his dad. I’m a tone-deaf klutz!
Try this instead: Praise his effort. Say: “Aw, thanks! He’s been practicing a lot lately. He’ll be so glad to hear you noticed his hard work paying off.”
When someone says “Your kids get along so well.”
Don’t say: Not at home they don’t! Last night she clawed him and drew blood.
Try this instead: Offer up an entertaining or interesting detail. Say: “Thank you! He just started reading to her. It’s the sweetest thing.”
When someone says “He’s so well behaved at a restaurant! My son could never sit still that long.”
Don’t say: Anything to one-up the complaint. This is not a competition in parenting pain.
Try this instead: Compliment the compliment. As in: “Thank you for saying my son has good manners. That’s about the nicest thing you could say to a mom!”