I was recently at my neighbor's home, and she offered me a gorgeous homemade chocolate dessert with nuts on it. She obviously slaved over it for hours. But I hate nuts. Don't like them. Can't stand them. I just lied and said I was allergic, which is usually how I handle these types of situations. Am I wrong for doing so? How do I politely refuse a food I simply don't enjoy without being insulting?
Are you wrong? No. But are you right? No. Your way of handling of the situation is to lie. Not to sound like a nagging mother, but honesty is always the best policy-- even in situations like this. If you stated that you don’t eat nuts because you don’t particularly like them, then she would more than likely understand. She may hate cantaloupe or green onions and know exactly how you feel.
So now that you've stated that you're allergic, think about the next time you see her: What if you unknowingly eat something with nuts in front of her, and Betty Crocker springs into action, grabbing her EpiPen and thrusting it into your thigh? Bet then you'd wish you hadn't taken the easy way out. What's done is done, and you can’t recant your statement. But moving forward, think about the repercussions of your white lies.
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